Helping Kids Through Divorce
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Kids are resilient, but the challenges of having divorced parents are still difficult. That’s why, as a parent, it’s important for you to do what you can to protect your child from divorce’s potentially adverse effects.
At Karcher Law Firm, we can help you identify ways of handling the divorce process that are in the best interest of your child or children.
Call 732-852-7018 to discuss your specific situation in a free consultation. From our office in Red Bank, our lawyers serve clients throughout Monmouth County and the surrounding areas of New Jersey.
Acknowledging And Responding To Emotions
The initial blow of the parent’s divorce is tough on kids in the short term. The anxiety, shock and anger can cause behavioral problems and affect school performance. This is especially true when kids are at a vulnerable age such as going into adolescence.
It may take a year or two to get beyond those emotions. Over time, however, most kids really are resilient and do not suffer long-term negative effects from their parents’ breakup.
But it’s up to you to handle the divorce in a way that puts your kids in a position to thrive, not just survive.
What Can You Do Now To Help Your Child For The Future?
Here are some points to consider as you look to your child’s best interests.
- Minimize conflict in the divorce process — Of course this is easier said than done. But when you and your ex can treat each other with civility and respect, it will be better for your kids. Also, remember: don’t communicate with our ex through the kids.
- Provide emotional support and pay attention — In many marriages, one spouse (often the mom) tends to manage the kids’ activities. After a divorce, it’s important for both parents to provide emotional support and to pay attention to how the kids are doing.
- Strike the right balance with discipline — Solid structure for family life is important, but so is flexibility in applying the rules in the custody plan approved by the court. Striking the right balance here will help you raise a well-adjusted kid.
- Don’t make your kid live out of a suitcase — If you child goes back and forth between two parental homes, make sure that the basics are provided in both places. . Sometimes a payor of child support will claim they don’t have to buy clothes because they pay support. But having toothbrushes and enough clothes at both places shows your kid that both places are home.
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